I’m honored to have you here.
I have a story to share:
I have parented more than 100 kids on 3 continents.
You read that correctly.
You may be asking yourself how this is possible. And I have to admit, I am not a parent in the traditional sense of the word. Although I have yet to be a biological parent, I have lived, worked and spent my daily life immersed in family culture. The last 15 years of my life have been dedicated to nannying for some of the most high profile families in the world (with the exception of a three-year hiatus working as the director of an orphanage on a mountainside in Rwanda – but that’s a story for another day).
For years, I took on the role of a co-parent. I woke up the kids in the morning, put them to bed at night, planned and cooked their meals, took them to school and the doctor and cared for them when they were sick.
I navigated meltdowns and tantrums, taught manners and helped them grow, develop and learn––all of the daily tasks every parent faces.
There I was, going through the journey that all parents go through. Am I doing this right? Why am I so frustrated? Will these kids ever listen to me? Am I good enough? Am I doing more harm than good?
Let me tell you a secret…
No one is perfect.
I have been it all; frustrated, permissive, loud, in tears on the floor, overly authoritative, uncompromising, the negotiator. Because guess what? Parents, nannies, teachers, grandparents – all humans get triggered by the behavior of others. Sometimes we keep our cool and sometimes we don’t. After a time, we get stuck in a cycle of negativity and frustration.
Then, I found myself at my breaking point. One day, in a heap of tears on my couch, I realized a vast disconnect existed between my words and my philosophy. My brain and my heart were no longer in alignment.
I felt angry that I wasn’t living up to my expectation for myself.
The frustration I was feeling and expressing didn’t live in my heart.
It was the symptom of chronically a lot of self-judgment as well as being triggered by toddler behavior and not having effective skills to understand behavior on a deeper level and to transform it.
It was time for a change. I knew there was a better way. So I entered a period of intense self-growth and dove deep; deep into my heart and intentions, deep into the latest research on child psychology and brain development, deep into my yoga practice and mindfulness.
I came out on the other side with an epiphany – an over-arching realization that forever changed how I work with toddlers.
When we are faced with the unexpected the majority of our words and actions are motivated by fear.
Fear of not being good enough, fear of failing, fear of our child’s next misbehavior and even using fear to motivate ourselves and our children.
This fear hijacks our ability to connect with our heart, our intentions, and our true nature, making us react in a way that doesn’t always make us proud.
The conventional approach to parenting (using time-outs, threats, and punishments) builds up walls and seals of our vulnerability and humanness. This hinders our ability to love, teach and guide which is our primary goals as parents and caregivers.
Four years ago, I shifted my mindset and embraced positive parenting which allowed me to discover the magic of toddlerhood.
Since going through my own transformation, my passion has become transforming toddlerhood by guiding parents through the same transformation to reclaim their equilibrium and get back to the heart of parenting so they can enjoy their lives and kids to the fullest.
As a Toddler Parenting Coach and Gentle Sleep Coach, I support parents all over the world in developing an empowered loving connection with their toddlers by aligning what resides in their heart with their words and actions.
Toddlerhood is transformed through Empowered Loving Connection.
It’s my mission to give you the tools you need to transform into the loving leader your toddler needs. Read more about my mission here.
So how do we leave the island of fear, frustration, and self-doubt behind and come out on the other side as our confident, curious, compassionate, connected true selves with a firm true north to guide us as parents?
TWO WORDS: Support and Practice. These transformations don’t happen overnight. They may not happen in a week. It’s something that shifts over time through a combination of clear intentions, consistent actions and above all else the willingness to get the support needed to create lasting change.
Practice becomes easier with the help and support to lift you up and show you the way.
And that is exactly what I do as a Toddler Parenting Coach.
Are you ready to come on this journey with me?
A journey to
- courage and confidence.
- unlock the parent you are in your heart?
- Transforming toddlerhood and embracing this sensitive developmental period?
Is your heart telling you it’s time to make a change and your brain doesn’t know where to start?
I’m here to help you take the first step.
With light and loving-kindness,
Devon Kuntzman, B.A. child development, RYT, is a toddler parenting coach on a mission to transform the myth that toddlerhood is terrible. Devon teaches parents it’s possible to embrace this sensitive developmental period and uncover the magic of toddlerhood while overcoming everyday challenges and keeping their sanity. As a coach, Devon empowers parents to transform their frustration, fear, and self-doubt into confidence in their parenting. Over the last 15 years, Devon has dedicated her life to working with children and families. She has worked with hundreds of parents and children across three continents as a coach, former nanny for some of the most high profile families in the world and director of an orphanage in Rwanda.
Devon is a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach, a graduate of the Wonder Weeks Academy Infant Mental Health and Development Program, a registered yoga teacher and the Founder of the Transforming Toddlerhood. Devon is passionate about toddlers, green juice, reading, traveling and holistic living. When she isn’t working with parents and toddlers, Devon can be found on her yoga mat, riding her bicycle or drinking a kombucha (not all at the same time).